Gently Share Options (Without Telling Them What to Do)

Many individuals and /or survivors may not know where to start.

Possible options include: Hazel - everything in one place, medical - counseling - legal help, community based resources, campus based resources, reporting pathways - Title IX or police. 

A supportive way to phrase it:  "There are some options is you want them, totally up to you." "I can look services up or we can do it together or we can just sit with this."

Show Up in Action, Not Just Words

Support can mean: Walking with them to class if they feel unsafe, Bringing food or water, Sitting with them while they make an appointment, Helping them make a plan for the next few days, or Offering quiet company (movies, music, crafts)

Avoid “Fix-It” Mode

You might want justice for your friend. You might feel angry.
But the moment you steer the choices; you take control from them—a dynamic that mirrors the harm.

Avoid: Pressuring them to report, Confronting the person who harmed them, Making promises you can’t keep (“I’ll destroy them,” “You’ll be OK soon”), Using phrases like “You just need to…”

Remind Them: Healing Doesn’t Have a Timeline
Survivors don’t heal in a straight line. Some days will feel fine; others may feel impossible.

Good reminders: “You get to heal at your pace.” “You don’t need to be ‘over it.’” “You’re not alone.”

Final Thought: Just Being There Matters More Than You Think

Your presence, belief, and steadiness can be life-changing.
You don’t have to be an expert—just a compassionate, patient friend who stays.